Although addiction is a mental state, by far the worst addiction trait comes from the enablers themselves. Enablers are every addicts stumbling block, and they prevent addicts from receiving the help they need and deserve.

Enablers want to fix things but in all the wrong ways. They want to sweep their family struggles under the rug and often deny they are the biggest obstacle in the addicts life. Enablers often overlook the fact that they too, need help.

The enablers pay the addicts legal fees, help mask the lies, or provide the addict with a multitude of ways to feed their habit. They finance the habit, provide food and housing, and truly believe that they are helping the addict.

Enablers will not hold the addict accountable, or themselves. Enablers are often found blaming or making excuses for the addicts problems. In fact, the enabler will often justify the addiction more than the addict themselves.

If enablers faced charges and were held accountable for the destruction of another human being, perhaps there would be less addicts. It seems that when an addict truly gets clean, the enablers have no more clout. And when that power is lost, they too have no choice but to fix themselves, or find someone new to enable.

Addiction is nasty in and of itself. If you are trying to get to a better place, then you must distance yourself from the triggers. And your biggest trigger, will always be the Enabler.

A wise man once said “He with the purest of intentions gets the purest of results”. 

I’ve questioned the truth to that statement over the years. I’ve found that sometimes those results take time. But in the end, if your heart is/was in the right place and your intentions are/were pure; the end results will be too. 

I discovered this lady last year named Karen Huffer. She’s pretty amazing.

If you have ever dealt with someone using the legal system to further abuse, harass, and bully you; she provides a plethora of information.

I love the stories of her taking people into court and hooking them up to a machine so a judge can see what is happening to the person as a result. She proves it. And instead of having clients run out of court when nauseated, she encourages them to sit there. She has them turn their head towards opponent, and vomit in the courtroom. She wants the judge to see exactly what the opponent has done to her client.

Most people think of PTSD and think of a war veteran. However, excessive litigation does cause trauma. It destroys people and lives.

If you can’t get to Nevada or afford to use her on your case, perhaps the plethora of information will help you get to the next level of personal strength. This video is worth watching if you want to know more about it. Karen, you are spot on!

Once you have the courage  (as with any bully) one of two things will happen: they go silent, or they try harder to get to you.

Regardless, stand your ground. Document everything. And I mean EVERYTHING. With good documentation and showing it on multiple levels, eventually you will prevail. Their abuse can no longer be disputed if it has occurred over an extended period of time. They can no longer deny it. The pattern is obvious. Their many masks falls off and it’s full exposure. And once this happens: YOU ARE FREE AT LAST!

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