Trust is easily given by most of us in relationships, but often taken for granted. Once it has become violated, the violator may often wonder how to regain that trust. There are three things you can do to regain someone’s trust. All be it the relationship will never be as pure as it once was, but the relationship can possibly be salvaged vs. burning bridges.
Actions – Our actions will be the most important tool in earning back someone’s trust. You must be genuine. There is no need to put on a show, you will only be wasting your time and looking foolish in the process. Actions are important because when trust is broken, words do not matter. Although our words may express our thoughts, our actions reveal them.
Change – If trust is violated, there is often a deeper reason than that relationship alone. It is not only important to take responsibility for our actions that have caused someone not to trust us, but we must make changes if that person is someone that we really want in our life, that we love. Change must be immediate, and you must be ready. Otherwise, the person you have offended will see it as a front, and you will only do more damage.
Time – Time heals almost all wounds. When trust is broken, there is no time limit as to how long it takes to earn back trust. That’s the unfortunate part. If you are wanting forgiveness do not ask things such as how long, or when they can forgive you. This will push them further away. As they heal over time, be sincere and compassionate. Most importantly, be willing to take some heat! Odds are, it is well deserved.
Relationships are a lot of work but the good ones are worth it. No matter what the situation is that has caused the mistrust, it can be restored in most cases over time. It could take days, weeks, months, or years, but if you want it bad enough and can prove you love the person and are worth it, it can be restored.
The #1 mistake people make when trying to regain trust or restore a relationship, is giving up.
2 thoughts on “The Act Of Trust”
Very nice post. Since my affair, I have been working hard to regain my husband’s trust- the worst thing was that I didn’t trust myself to be strong enough to do so, but here I am working away. I am letting my actions speak loudly. I am present in my marriage. I have changed… a lot. I am honest with myself and with my husband. It’s been hard and there’s a lot more work to be done, but I do believe it can be done. I am glad you do too.
They say the biggest mistake people make is giving up…. well that and forgetting to pray 🙂 Time will heal, your hubby knows your heart.