What Do You See When Looking At A Confederate (Battle) Flag

confederate flagA Nashville news station asked viewers their opinions on the removal of the Confederate flag from state buildings in South Carolina etc. Walmart also announced the removal of all products with the Confederate emblem from their stores. I stated my opinion, not realizing the amount of support I would have. It was the day of constant Facebook notifications.

My opinion:

I see history with that flag. Leave it. Hate is from within. It has nothing to do with flags, or anything/anyone else. Unless people lived in that era, they should see it as history. We were taught it in school. That’s history. If you hate it otherwise and seeing it stirs bad feelings, that was taught at home. And that hatred is from within.

Do you think of mistreated Christians when you see a Christian flag? Or mistreated gays if you see a gay flag? Do you think of the white Irish slaves when you see their flag? I don’t. To me they are flags. A person who sees negative was taught to see it that way.

Example:

If you took a group of first graders to look at mass amounts of flags they would see flags. They wouldn’t point out a specific one and say “THAT one has to go. It is evil!”

Fast forward years of being taught mixed with ones own feelings, life experiences etc. And take that same group in their 50’s. They would have stories for most both good and bad, and possibly resentment and hatred for some at the very sight of them. Why? They learned to.

The responses from the news post encouraged me to dig deeper and ask around. So I took it a step further in effort to prove my point. I took a poll. Here are the results.

Question: What do you think of when you see this flag?

Age 4   It has staz like the staz on my “shut” (stars, shirt)

Age 6   It has the same colors like the America flag

Age 8   I see you have a flag in your hand (uncontrollably giggling)

Age 10  I think of BIG monster trucks. 

Age 14  I think of the civil war and how the south lost

Age 16  I think of racism

So there you have it. Racism and hatred is a taught/learned behavior.

It is not the flags killing people. It is not a statue that represents history and things our society has overcome that is killing people. It is not the guns killing people. It’s people killing people.

People who were taught to never see the good in something, yes, those people are the ones killing people. You know, those people who were never taught how to love. We should remove those people, not the items in this world they blame for their heartless actions. Those items represent history, and are a reminder of how far we have come. And people like the Charleston shooter, are a reminder of how far we have yet to go.

Traveling The Roads We Were Warned Of

 quote about roads we travel and being warned

Sometimes we are warned but refuse to accept it. We hear it and see it but do not want to believe it. We get caught up in false hope and set ourselves up for a fall.

There is a reason people cross our paths and warn us. We shouldn’t take these warnings lightly. They come to help us and with good cause. Their knowledge although often overlooked could be the very knowledge that saves our life. Question is, what do you do with the information?

If you decide to proceed after having been warned; proceed with caution. The others who traveled before you, left that particular road for a reason. They do not warn you because they want to travel back down that road themselves. They warn you to prevent that pain being inflicted on anyone else.

What may appear to be a whisper or an annoyance from others who come to warn us while we are standing, becomes screaming and shouting as we travel further down that road and we wreck or fall down.

If you have traveled despite being warned, you may reach a point where you wish you would have listened. Or perhaps you may wish you would have asked a few more questions.  If that is the case,  try not to beat yourself up. Just be glad that you changed roads and there was an exit ramp right when you needed it.

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