Signs Your Partner Is Dishonest Or Hiding Something

Honesty is huge in any relationship. It fuels trust. Without trust, the fires of love burn out quite quickly. Sometimes, instantly. © Angela Bininger 2009-2015

couples-1As we all know relationships are a lot of work. When feelings of love crowd in, logic sometimes gets lost. At times we may find ourselves questioning things, yet afraid to ask because we fear it is our own paranoia from a previous relationship or heartache. One thing I have found for certain, is that those instincts that lead you to question something have lead you there for a reason.

Signs Your Partner Is Being
Dishonest Or Hiding Something

He/She keeps to himself/herself – People who bottle emotions have a tendency to hide things other than their emotions. They seem to have a “don’t ask don’t tell” policy, or an “ask and I will tell if I want policy”.

He/She goes with whatever everyone else thinks/says/feels- I have seen this pattern quite often. Dishonest people seem to not have opinions of their own. Instead you will see/hear them regurgitate  opinions or feelings of someone else as their own. They will take a conversation you have with them and tell it like it is their own to someone else. Often they will do this right in front of you, unknowingly.


Stories seem to have holes – When asking serious questions take good mental notes. If something is suspicious ask the same question in a different manner, on different occasions. Eventually, he/she will trip up and you will begin to find stories with holes in them. Most of the time if one lie is found, there are plenty more where that one came from.


Beats around the bush if questioned, even on the simplest things – It is hard for a liar to give rapid and direct answers. If questioned they will either beat around the bush, or provide an answer with very little to no information. They are usually a slow responder.

Answering the question without answering the question – Liars are notorious for turning a question around. It is often a word game and if not worded properly it was never said, or never happened. For example : You ask after a spouse/partner has cheated “Have you talked to _____?” They answer “I haven’t seen _____?”  They offer enough information to satisfy the taste of the one inquiring. In this particular example, the question wasn’t answered directly. “No I haven’t seen him/her” is a huge flag. That was not the question asked. The question was “Have you talked to him/her”.

Liars live in a life of denial. They do not know who they are and are insecure. They use other’s words/thoughts/opinions/feelings and voice them as their own and respond to questions of others slowly because they are retracing their steps and trying to figure out what they last told and to who.

Until they decide to step out of denial, all you can do is keep confronting. And when you are tired of confronting the issues, walk away. People are people and although some change over time, some never will.

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17 thoughts on “Signs Your Partner Is Dishonest Or Hiding Something

  1. I’ve been disecting my relationship and everything you said was something that my ex-affair partner did. I tripped him up on more than one occasion and once he caught on that I knew what he was doing it got more intense for him and his ability to lie and deny got worse and worse. It was all to his own demise in the end.
    “Liars fear facing the truth, and every aspect of their life will reflect this. Relationships will be in turmoil, and they will be at war with themselves.”—I can’t tell you how many times he spoke about fear…and in the end he said he had to “now fight off his demons that were chasing him”. I was too strong and intelligent for him…and by the time he realized it, it was too late.
    Great post!!!

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  2. Thank you very much, glad you enjoyed it. The patterns are the same with every liar. Another thing I noticed, is that they always answer with the number two if it is a question that involves numbers. I wonder if it is because 2 is more believable than one, and not as bad as 3 or more. To them it just seems more believable I guess. Something to ponder…..hmmmm

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