recovering

Recovering From Lies In relationships

When we are in a relationship that has experienced betrayal; recovering from that betrayal can be quite a challenge. The severity of the betrayal will play a huge part in the recovery process. Is this person sorry? How do we know if a person is truly sorry? Most importantly, will they do it again?

There are ways to recover if the person who has deceived you is ready. The unfortunate part is that the recovery is some-what dependent on the other person’s ability to face themselves and be honest. They must want a change for a change to even be an option. They must lay all of the truth on the table.

Although recovery for the liar begins by their purging of information, they have to tell everything as though they have entered a confession booth. If you feel like there is more to the story you are probably right. So make sure you follow the proper steps when confronting a liar. 

(Click here for more about confronting liars)

If they don’t want to stop their behavior we are simply beating a dead horse and it is no longer worth our time trying. The best way we can recover is to let go of the person. It would be too difficult to maintain respect for ourselves if we surround ourselves with people who do not respect us.

If the truth is not fully revealed; there will always be problems. And at that point we must walk away. It is the only way to make a full recovery and let the past be the past. It is also the only way to keep something from replaying in your head constantly. 

For signs that your partner is dishonest or hiding something click here.

© Angela Bininger and The Empowerer, 2009-2015. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this websites author and/or owner is strictly prohibited.

10 Steps To Fighting Depression, The Natural Way

Depression can hit unexpectedly but there are ways to overcome it naturally. It is as simple as changing your patterns, routines and thought processes. Just as one would their clothes if they were dirty.

1.) Set reasonable goals. Don’t beat yourself up if you don’t meet them in the amount of time you have allotted yourself. Just keep setting more. Remember, baby steps.

2.) Create a network of people around you that you can confide in, and trust. If you only have one person you can talk to, join a social networking site, or activities within your community.  Sometimes finding old friends from our past can aid us in finding ourselves again.

WARNING: Be extremely careful here if you are married. I would recommend same-sex friends during this phase of pulling yourself out. It is all too easy for an affair to happen, and when in this stage it is important that you stay away from situations where you might not use your best judgment.

3.) Go to the library! This helps a ton. Check out book after book, read story after story, and gain knowledge on the situation. The self-help section is amazing! And, well, knowledge is power.

4.) Eat healthy and get rest. This is important! The better you eat the better you will feel. And the better you feel, the better you will sleep.

5.) Write about your feelings! This is therapeutic and solidifies how you really feel. It holds you accountable. Although, any creative outlet…  is good to have. Primarily; expressive arts.

6.) Exercise! Even if it’s only a short walk to start, it is important. It will give you a sense of self-worth.

7.) Find positive people and surround yourself with them. If this is not an option just yet and you live in a negative environment, then surround yourself with positive information. Daily inspirational stories, motivational quotes, etc.

8.) Make some plans! Find something to look forward to! By doing those things you have always wanted to do, you will naturally pull yourself out of that rut.

9.) PRAY! You can do everything mentioned above, but this is the most important. It’s one I avoided for some time, but the only true answer.

10.) If these things do not work, seek professional help. They can, and will help.

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