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13 Tell Tale Signs Of A Cheater, Is It Happening To You?
The majority of people who suspect cheating probably should. Usually that is your instincts trying to tell you something.
Those who don’t suspect cheating in their relationship, should still have this knowledge. There are two reasons I suggest this. 1) It can happen to anyone, and 2) It’s not a bad thing to know what signs and symptoms to look for. Most people don’t know the signs of a cheater, until it is a little too late.
1.) Appearance – Has he/she taken more pride in personal appearance lately such as: new clothes, cologne/perfume, working out, new hairstyles etc.? If they are getting all done up just for a trip to the grocery store or other trips that are out of the ordinary, then something is probably fishy. Granted, some people do naturally take pride in their appearance. With cheaters it is more of a sudden change in their normal patterns of getting ready, what they wear, how they look etc.
2.) Nit-Picking – Is he/she picking a fight just to get away or using the notorious “Time to think” or “I have some work to do at the office” excuse? Cheaters do this every day. They will literally pick a fight just so they have a reason to get away from you and do what they do…cheat!
3.) More Frequent Trips – Is he/she leaving the house more frequently? Granted this is not always the case. Work affairs happen so often and their time is mostly accounted for.
4) Abandonment Technique – Is he/she leaving you with the children knowing you won’t drag them to check up on him/her? This is a common trick for married couples. Once the kids are in bed it makes it hard for the one left behind to check out anything questionable in their partners behavior.
5.) New Tunes – Is he/she listening to new music? Lyrics are crucial!!! Especially for ladies! We identify with songs as though they are the meaning of our own life and experiences. Now ladies, men are usually opposite on this one. They can truly listen to a song and think about absolutely nothing.
6.) Internet – Is he/she on the computer a lot? If they are spending more time talking to and interacting with people on the internet than they are with you then it would be a huge flag. Where we invest our time speaks volumes as to which relationships mean the most.
7.) Uninvited – Is he/she doing things/activities and you are not welcome or even invited to attend? Some will purposely schedule or portray to schedule activities you detest because they know you will not want to go. (Call their bluff the next time and watch their reaction.)
8.) Unhappy – Has he/she mentioned unhappiness in the relationship in the last 6-12 months? Typically mentioning being unhappy with the relationship happens just before an affair begins. In a sense it is a cry for help. Or a warning call per say.
9.) Contacts – Are there any unusual numbers or contacts in his/her cellular phone or on the bill? Many men will make up a guys name and many females will make up a ladies name so that it appears to just be a text from a friend. Another one in this category is the mentioning of hanging out with the friend you have never heard of.
10.) Secretive – Has he/she been more secretive or distant? If you are communicating less and he or she is keeping to themselves more then that may be a flag.
11.) Depression – Has he/she recently suffered from depression? Depression can do many things to the mind. A simple compliment could carry the depressed person far away, into a land of hope. And boom, affair.
12.) Loss – Has he/she recently lost a loved one? Losing a loved one causes us to reevaluate our lives. Some develop a need to live as though they were dying themselves after losing someone close to them.
13.) Changes In bedroom – Is there a sudden lack of interest or a sudden uncontrollable interest in sex? This too is an obvious sign. Affairs can play both sides however. But definitely question when new techniques or ideas appear.
So many affairs fly under the radar before being detected and these above mentioned things are very obvious signs. If you have answered yes to a few of these, you likely have some research to do about your partner.
Tips:
If they are on the computer a lot you can install spyware if you just need proof. This can also be added to their cellular phone.
If you have kids and can’t get away when they take off you can always hire a P.I. relatively cheap. And sometimes you can trick them in to coming clean without providing hardly any information. 9 times out of 10 people discover that the instincts that led them to question it in the first place, were right all along.
There are plenty of ways to catch if you really want to know. Question is, can you handle the truth? Are you ready for the roller-coaster of emotions?
Whatever you do, do not let them manipulate you into thinking you are crazy for suspecting something. Dig and dig until the truth is revealed if that is what you are searching for.
Always remember, what is done in the darkness will always be brought to light.
10 Steps To Fighting Depression, The Natural Way
Depression can hit unexpectedly but there are ways to overcome it naturally. It is as simple as changing your patterns, routines and thought processes. Just as one would their clothes if they were dirty.
1.) Set reasonable goals. Don’t beat yourself up if you don’t meet them in the amount of time you have allotted yourself. Just keep setting more. Remember, baby steps.
2.) Create a network of people around you that you can confide in, and trust. If you only have one person you can talk to, join a social networking site, or activities within your community. Sometimes finding old friends from our past can aid us in finding ourselves again.
WARNING: Be extremely careful here if you are married. I would recommend same-sex friends during this phase of pulling yourself out. It is all too easy for an affair to happen, and when in this stage it is important that you stay away from situations where you might not use your best judgment.
3.) Go to the library! This helps a ton. Check out book after book, read story after story, and gain knowledge on the situation. The self-help section is amazing! And, well, knowledge is power.
4.) Eat healthy and get rest. This is important! The better you eat the better you will feel. And the better you feel, the better you will sleep.
5.) Write about your feelings! This is therapeutic and solidifies how you really feel. It holds you accountable. Although, any creative outlet… is good to have. Primarily; expressive arts.
6.) Exercise! Even if it’s only a short walk to start, it is important. It will give you a sense of self-worth.
7.) Find positive people and surround yourself with them. If this is not an option just yet and you live in a negative environment, then surround yourself with positive information. Daily inspirational stories, motivational quotes, etc.
8.) Make some plans! Find something to look forward to! By doing those things you have always wanted to do, you will naturally pull yourself out of that rut.
9.) PRAY! You can do everything mentioned above, but this is the most important. It’s one I avoided for some time, but the only true answer.
10.) If these things do not work, seek professional help. They can, and will help.
© Angela Bininger and The Empowerer, 2009-2018. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this websites author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Angela Bininger and The Empowerer with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.
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