My daughter asked the age old question….
“Hey mom, how do you know if you are in love?”
My answer was quite simple. At least it was to me. And although it took me many years of my life to figure it out for myself, I felt like I could give her a legitimate answer.
But first, I had to start with what my definition of love is.
When you give of yourself and think nothing of it. You want nothing but to see the other person happy and for them to benefit. It is sacrificial, and you expect nothing in return.
Sometimes love can mean being with the person forever and getting married, and sometimes you love them enough to say goodbye. But when it is true love, you can feel it. You just click.
You respect each other and get along, and you don’t try and change the other person. You work together. It is a partnership with two people who are the best of friends.
You laugh regularly. You cheer one another on. And you feel like there is nothing that life can throw at you, that the two of you can not handle together.
Now, being in love… that can be tricky!
But as for me…..
How do I know that I am in love?
For starters, I still count the hours until he gets home from work and we get our family time, and time as a couple. I still get butterflies when he touches my hand. And no matter how bad of a day I have had, one hug makes it all go away.
I look forward to every conversation we have, from religion to politics and everything in between. I love getting to know him more every day. I love the simple ways he shows me on a daily basis that he loves me.
I am simple. So is he. And together, it is just something magical.
And when you are in love…. it is magical. Nothing anyone says will make you feel any different. And every day, you love them more than the day before.