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Don’t Nurture What Needs Neutered
Don’t nurture what needs neutered in life. Cut it off, be released, and let it go. The time has come to move on.
Instead of getting mad about what is lost,what you have left behind , or what you have put away; get excited about whats about to come. God’s word says: “I will restore to you double.” Believe Him. And get excited! Because good is on its way!
Turn you to the strong hold, ye prisoners of hope: even to day do I declare that I will render double unto thee. Zechariah 9:12
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Straight A’s of Communication When Wanting To Resolve Issues or Conflicts
We all have things that annoy or bother us when it comes to others’ actions. It is vital that when these situations occur; we communicate those feelings with the appropriate person.
There is a way to communicate, and have straight A’s in the process. The conversations will be fail proof if the following steps are considered before tackling an issue or problem with another individual. It is truly all about our approach, our attitude(s), and our actions.
Approach is the first step to communication. If you approach with a bad attitude one will feel attacked, and things will quickly escalate. On the other hand if your approach is calm, sincere, and lacks sarcasm; it will be accepted by the opposite party will likely not become offended. We must all follow the three T’s to a proper approach when we are communicating a problem we have with someone else.
Attitude is everything in life; especially when communicating feelings or resolving issues one may have with other people. A bad attitude can be contagious; but the good attitude is more appealing, attractive, and will provide better results.
Maintaining a positive demeanor while approaching and talking to an individual will promote conversation opposed to yelling and bickering. A person’s attitude when approaching another individual with heated topics; will determine the outcome. A bad attitude, will catch some of the most positive and care-free spirits off guard.
Actions speak louder than words. Our gestures or what we do can speak volumes in showing the other person how we truly feel. We may claim we were talking nice, but how heated we become is revealed by our actions. If either person is shaking their head, defensive, or involving others: it would be best to stop communicating until things calm down.
As with all problems in life, until we get to the root of an issue it will never get resolved. If we find ourselves in conflict with others and then over time speaking again without ever fully discussing what caused or allowed the previous separation; we will end up in the same place again and again. Until we fix the roots and they are thriving, the flowers will never blossom.
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ABC’s of Life Series – Day 4 Letter D : Dreaming Is A Must
Day 4, Letter D
Dreaming Is A Must
We all are born to dream. Sometimes we just have a hard time believing in our dreams enough to follow through. We get stuck in these ruts of being comfortable, and find ourselves afraid to take a risk. However, we need to take a risk; to achieve a gain.
This world has developed due to people’s dreams and their determination to make those dreams a reality. Because someone dared to dream, we now communicate in this world faster than ever before. We build luxurious homes, we dine at the finest restaurants, and we wear some of the most lavish clothing.
Because someone dared to dream we have cures for diseases. Infants can live prematurely for weeks ahead of schedule and still survive. We are living longer, and for the most part we are healthier too.
Thank goodness people in this world have dreams. I am grateful that no matter how many times people were told it could not be done, someone made it a point to do it anyway. They followed their heart, and they succeeded.
Dreams keep us alive and give us something to look forward to. Dreams advance the world and grant opportunities like never before. Dreams, are a key to happiness. Fulfilling them is when happiness has nearly been mastered.
“Not only must we take time to dream, but we must make the time for our dreams to come true.”
What is your dream? Are you ready to make it happen? It can be done ….
Day 5 Letter E: Exercise Your Freedom Of Speech
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ABC’s of Life Series — Day 3 Letter C ; Cherish Every Breath You Take
From A – Z
Day 3, Letter C
Cherish Every Breath You Take
“Life can end or be forever changed in a millisecond. It is important that we live it to the fullest and not take it for granted. We must find our purpose, and fulfill it.”
I learned at an early age the stages of grief by the loss of loved ones. By the age of 20, I had been to more funerals than years I had been alive. The trend continued well into my thirties. From friends, to co-workers, family members, and classmates it didn’t take long to realize; the shortness of life. One minute we are here, and the next we are gone forever.
Signs that a person is cherishing every breath:
– They treat others as though it was the last time they will see them, every time that they see them.
– When they are in the wrong, they apologize.
– They find themselves thankful for all things, both good and bad.
– They dream big and follow through.
– They live the best life they know how to live.
– They begin to build new bridges once they cross them instead of burning bridges that they may need to cross again someday.
– They focus on the big picture, and try hard not to get caught up in the minuet details.
– They make sure they have left no stones unturned.
– They accept the past and build towards the future.
– They live as best they can to have no regrets.
– When they are present, people notice.
– They give life all they have.
What matters the most in the end is that our spirits are free enough from any baggage, to enter into the after-life. Otherwise, we are just another episode of ghost hunters. Who wants to be another lost and broken spirit wandering the earth after death; due to unresolved business? Surely, not me.
As for me personally, I want to make peace with people while I am here and live the best possible life that I can. It is the only way to rest in peace, when our time here has expired.
Day 4 Letter D – Dreaming Is A Must
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ABC’s of Life Series — Day 2 Letter B : Be Careful Who You Trust
ABC’s of Life Series
Day 2, Letter B
Be Careful Who You Trust
When we read be careful who you trust in the ABC’s of Life poem it applies to relationships and life in general. It is the mechanic, the salesman, the doctor, the lawyer, the friends, the family, and whatever else you want to insert into that blank. It also includes trusting ourselves.
We are all guilty of thinking we believe or feel a certain way about something. Until of course we get to be tested and placed into the actual situation. We assume that because we have never believed in it or that we were taught not to do it; that we never will. This is where we mislead ourselves. It is an example of where we have trusted ourselves too much.
We put our trust in the hands of others until given reason not to. We trust ourselves to navigate our lives until we hit the rocks. We go through lesson after lesson to discover the same results; God is the only one we can trust.
There are a lot of people who do not believe in Him, and that is their choice. It saddens me to think that cultures and religions have caused the thought of us all having a “maker” to be repulsive for some. Unfortunately, that is just how it is.
I can say for certain that no matter how dark the days, how heavy the load, or how long the travels; He was right beside me. I don’t read my bible every day. I do not attend church regularly. However, I still believe. I still talk to Him, and He still hears me. Believe it or not, He answers my prayers too! It may not always be in the ways one would expect, but they will always get answered. We just have to put our trust in Him.
He hears me when I’m smoking a cigarette and He would hear me if I drank a beer. He accepts me, and I trust Him. Perhaps we should all trust Him a little more?
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Be Careful Who You Choose
We must be careful who we choose as friends, partners, companions or spouses.
If they lie to others in front of you, they will lie to you too.
If they talk about others in front of you, they will talk about you too.
If they steal in front of you, they will steal from you too.
If they disrespect others in front of you, they will disrespect you too.
If they hide who they are from others, they will hide from you too.
If they cheat on someone to be with you, they will cheat on you too.
If they blame others for their problems, someday they will blame you.
Watch their actions and hear their words. Then decide what kind of company you would like to keep. What we watch them do to others, is often what they will someday do to us. How they speak of others is how they do or will eventually speak of us. It has proven to be true in many situations.
If they aren’t treating others the way you would want to be treated, it may be a flag. Perhaps they are putting up a front for you? It may be time to question a few things.
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Are You Leaving a Legacy, Or a Liability?
As parents we all want what is best for our children. However, what some parents fail to realize in terms of co-dependent children is that they are no longer leaving a legacy, but yet, a liability.
By leaving a legacy one must raise self-sufficient children. They should be children capable of making their own wise and practical decisions upon adulthood. They should be children who feel compelled to do more with their life than the previous generation. And most importantly, they should be emotionally healthy children who feel they can be who they are, not who we imagined or wanted them to be.
Examples:
Just because we have run the family business, doesn’t mean we should expect our children to take over someday. They will likely have plans of their own.
Just because we played a particular sport and excelled, doesn’t mean we should force our children to play it if they have no interest.
Just because they dream the impossible, doesn’t mean we should squash their dreams.
Our job is to encourage their successes, and help guide them when they encounter failure. It is to teach them how to handle their own relationships vs., being a dictator for their relationships. Our job is tough, but to raise healthy children with the ability to maintain healthy adult relationships, we must push them to do well. We must teach them to put forth effort. We must help them learn to look at the big picture.
Signs of leaving a liability:
The adult child comes to you for every one of life’s hurdles.
The adult child now expects the parent to take care of financial responsibilities.
The adult child now expects parents to bail them out.
The adult child now has no insight.
The adult child now has dependency issues aside from their relationship with their parents. Most likely chemical dependencies.
The adult child is now angry.
The adult child, will then likely leave another liability for their children. And the trend continues. However, there are ways to avoid leaving a liability. And there are proven ways to leave a legacy. Proven ways to leave a legacy are as follows:
Encourage and comfort your children.
Listen to their feelings and respect that they have their own minds, and opinions.
Do not try to control who they are, better yet guide them to where they should be.
Allow them to suffer consequences of their actions. They need tough love. They have their own friends to be best friends with.
And most importantly, practice what you preach. Be a good role model.
I once heard a saying from a parent that said : Well I guess if I was your best friend, and you loved me all the time; then I wouldn’t be a very good parent. And I agree with that statement. There will be times our children do not agree with our decisions in parenting. There will be times they do not understand our reasoning and we find ourselves saying what we once heard: Someday you will understand….when you have kids of your own.
These days I see more parents trying to be best buddies with their kids. They are there to rescue them from situations the kids/adult children put themselves into. Rather than showing tough love so lessons can be learned, they throw them preserver after preserver.
Tough love is absolutely the hardest step for people to take in any forms of relationships. But without it, we leave a liability. We should be leaving a legacy instead. We should be allowing our children to live their own life, and a life that they are proud of. An honest life, and a life with an abundance of good people with direction.
Are you leaving a legacy or a liability? Are you teaching bad habits? Or are you setting a good example instead? The quote that children learn what they live, has much insight. What are your children learning from you?
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Thoughts and Quote Of The Day
“Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad.
Let God deal with the things they do. Hate in your heart will consume you too.”
– Will Smith
When people put you down – let it go. They do it because they feel bad about themselves.
When people lie to you and hide things – let it go. They do it because they have lost sight of who they are. They are best friends with fear and denial.
When people make false promises – let it go. They are too self absorbed to notice most of the time.
When people disrespect you – let it go. It is because they do not respect themselves.
When people discourage you – let it go. It’s because they lack that courage themselves.
When people hate you – let it go and love them anyway. Hate and anger will destroy you. Love is much simpler.
When people can’t say thank you – let it go. There will come a day they wished they would have.
When you find yourself upset – let it go. It’s better to choose happiness.
When people refuse to pay time or attention to things that matter to you – let it go. God will send you people that will.
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When They Claim You Are Something You Aren’t
Sometimes as relationships end people tend to hold on to a few mistakes one person made and use them as that person’s complete character make-up. They will talk about you, deceive you, and manipulate the situations allowing others to believe you are someone you are not. The best thing to do in a situation such as this, is just bide your time.
When people lie, it always comes out eventually. It may take a week, a month, or in some cases many years. But nonetheless, it comes out. All we can do, is keep doing what we know is right. We must stay true to ourselves and not let the negativity they project towards us, get to us.
Say a prayer, and have some faith. Over time others will see who was being honest, and who wasn’t. Others will see who is weak, and who is strong. Others will begin to question the things that do not add up. And when they do, that someone who was once trying to convince others that you are someone you aren’t; will get a dose of karma.
“What we project out, will always be returned to us. So keep projecting the good and eventually, the good will come.”
The Empoweror 