“Best Interest Of The Child/Children” is a common phrase thrown around in custody disputes and court proceedings. However, unfortunately once everything is settled, it turns out to be a phrase that seems unimportant to most. Once the microscope is gone and nobody is paying attention, people slip back into the person they truly are.
The upsetting part is that the children have suffered enough. If the court systems truly cared about the child’s best interest they would care at all times. If they had some sort of “automatic review” where they actually went back to see how things are truly working for everyone, people wouldn’t get away with the things they do post divorce.
Children are being manipulated, poisoned, and hurt. Pains that will be with them through adulthood and possibly in their own marriages someday. It is really sad! There is case after case where children are not in the place that is in their best interest, yet there is nothing to stop it from happening.
Because there is no review, one must file a contempt charge. Then another, and another, and another. If they comply it gets thrown out, if you file again and they don’t comply they are guilty. But what does this solve? It would start a bigger war to file papers, hire lawyers, and have everyone walking on pins and needles again than to have a court system set up to automatically review custody agreements/cases.
If our court system could develop something to monitor such agreements, it would be about the best interest of the child, ALL the time. Not just when it is convenient for certain parties.
We have reviews for our criminals, our welfare system, government insurance/medicaid, and all of the other programs. BUT, not in our future, not when it comes to these kids that have suffered enough. What is wrong with this picture?
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