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Sick Of Feeling Crappy? Here Are Five Rules To Finding Happy!
I have had several friends say they are not happy and that they do not know how to find happiness. I do not in any way shape or form profess to be the happiness coach, nor do I have all the cures for finding your own happiness; however, I would like to share to a few things I have learned over my own years of searching for happiness.
RULE# 1
For years I went back to a relationship thinking I could not be “happy” without him or the relationship. I could not be alone. I went back trying to love and be loved, however I was only putting myself through a personal hell.
I let the relationship define me and my reason for being.
After my divorce I found that I didn’t even know who “I” was. I had been too busy trying to find happiness in someone else, that I had lost myself. I had to rediscover and find who I was.
RULE# 2
A year later I realized that my unhappiness wasn’t because of the lack of having someone in my life. I had to find happiness within, because if I was not happy now how was I ever going to he be happy in a relationship?
RULE# 3
Letting someone else be your source of happiness is self-destructive. You have to learn to like, love and respect yourself before anyone else.
Question:
How long do you find yourself happy when you allow your happiness to be driven by another person? A couple of weeks or months, and then what?
Then you believe this person must not be the “one” because they no longer make “you” happy….. when in reality you set this relationship up to fail because you were searching for someone/anyone to fulfill your void.
We have all been taught that to love someone is to sacrifice yourself for their happiness and in return we expect them to do the same for us. However, by sacrificing our happiness we are only becoming miserable. We alone are responsible for our happiness.
RULE# 4
Start by making yourself the priority and no-one else. Find yourself, and enjoy being you.
Now this doesn’t mean you have to cut everyone out of your life, but that you should allow yourself to be the priority.
RULE# 5
The only person you cannot live without and have unconditional love for is YOU! Everyone else is a bonus. Once you start to love yourself and instead of leaving your happiness dependent upon others, the right people will fall into place.
Written By: Aliceson Troute Carver
Recipe For Happiness
NOTE: You may find just as I have found that some days may require you to double or even triple this recipe. The good news is that unlike some recipes; doubling or even tripling this recipe will not cause the recipe to fail. In fact, with this recipe, the more ingredients you add the more happiness will be found.
Joy
There is one thing a person must acquire in order to live a balanced and happy life. That one thing, is joy.
Do you have joy in your life or is it the missing link?
It does not matter much where you live, where you work, what you drive, or where you dine. It does not matter who your friends are, or what their social status is. If joy is not present, misery often is instead.
True joy can be experienced in trailer parks and in mansions. It is found on beaches and in mountains. It is seen in extremely cold climates, and can still be found in the desert heat. Everyone experiences it differently, but it is up to us to find it for ourselves.
People find joy in many ways. But once they truly find it….. it stays.
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Loving Life
Finding Hope
Claiming Our Past
“If we don’t claim our past it will claim our future. It is not possible to know where we are going, if we can’t admit the places we have been.”
I have seen countless situations where people deny their past. They deny what they have done, or what has been done to them. They deny their experiences. Their fear of admitting mistakes or failures enables them to continue in their negative cycle. Simply put, it cripples them and they can not grow as a person. Instead they keep making the same mistakes, again and again.
By denying our past experiences we set ourselves up to fail. If we can’t admit where we have been or screwed up in life, how could we even begin to correct it? By hiding it or denying the experiences we are merely doing a patch job. As we know, patches only hold so long.
By laying it all out there and owning every experience: nobody has anything over us. We can walk in peace, with no secrets. We live in light instead of darkness.
There is nobody worth keeping secrets. We are worth more than that. By owning our past and our experiences we begin to walk in truth. We can then break the negative cycles and patterns; and begin to experience peace and happiness.
We have to own our experiences, and learn from them. It is the only way to level up in the game of life. If we can’t admit them, how can we ever truly recognize what needs changed?
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Can We Understand Others Thoughts While Still Trying To Understand Our Own
The human mind has approximately 12,000 – 60, 000 thoughts a day depending on ones thinking level. Some thoughts are pure while some are not so pure. There are thoughts that are nonsense and not worth the time or energy of even thinking them. There are thoughts that bring joy, thoughts that bring pain, thoughts that bring laughter and thoughts that simply make us smile.
As people we struggle to understand those around us as well as their thought processes. We attempt to understand their lines of thinking, just as we do our own. And sometimes, we may find ourselves being judgmental of other people’s actions or decisions, and even more so as we try to understand the notorious question “What were you/they thinking?”
How is it possible to understand others, when we are still trying to understand ourselves? We all have a dark side, or have all walked through dark days. Some may chose different forms of darkness, but we have all experienced the same emotions at some point through our journey. Granted, our situations may vary slightly or tremendously. However, we have all experienced loss, fear, abandonment, love, joy, pain, guilt, and shame. Unless of course, we are one of the select few in the world born with no conscience.
It would be best to say that the only person that knows a persons thought process and mindset, is that person. To try to believe otherwise, is naive. How many times have we found ourselves in situations where we overhear ourselves say out loud ” I would have never expected that out of him/her!” Truth is, perhaps they didn’t expect it out of them either.
It only takes a few bad thoughts for a few days in a row, out of 60,000 a day …. and there could be chaos.
We are all human. All born to make mistakes. Although the levels of mistake-hood may very, the lessons and consequences of our actions bring about the same emotions. To understand those around us, we must first understand ourselves.
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The Right Path
When we separate ourselves from others and begin to travel the road we feel is best suited for us is not always accepted by our peers. However, more often than not it is accepted by our conscience. These cleaner roads we must travel in life will allow us to encounter criticism and judgment, however, we must keep traveling and not give up.
For today: Disregard the criticism of others and keep trucking along. Before you know it you will look back; and be thankful you took not only the high road, but the right road.
Dead ends are dead ends, and when we are on the right road there are none. Instead, doors continue to open leading us down roads with an infinite amount of street lights. One blown street light doesn’t mean the path no longer exists. Keep going.
The right path isn’t always that easiest, the shortest, or the most lit; but it is by far the best way to maintain happiness.
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Day 3: Removing The Anchor
When restoring happiness and peace it is important to untie those anchors that keep us in treacherous waters. After all, how can we get to a new destination if this anchor keeps holding in the same location? If we remain anchored we take the risk of being shipwrecked with one storm, or even one wave.
By removing the anchor and entering the captain’s seat we take control. We can then head into the open waters and travel around future storms vs. sitting through every storm anchored and praying for survival. By steering ourselves, we are then given the option to plow through the waves and storms with determination. It also allows us to keep a better eye on the forecast.
Our survival rate will increase significantly by simply taking control of the boat.
For day 3:
It is time to untie the rope, leave the anchor behind and set sail.
Once you start steering, you find that you are closer to Paradise Island than you had originally thought. However, in order to get there we must first let go.
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