I recently read a quote that said “If a friendship lasts more than seven years it will last a lifetime.” I don’t buy it!
Now granted, I have been blessed with many of good friends. Some friendships go back as far as 34 years. But even some of those “friendships” do not have much depth to them. If we knew each other at the core of our being, we may not really like each other.
I have found that friends come in cycles. Although we are blessed to have some we may consider our best friends, they are only our best friends so long as they can relate to us in some way. Whether is be that you are raising kids the same ages, both in marital trouble, both single, both party animals, both share the same hobbies, or even both on a spiritual journey together… they tend to come and go. So long as we are changing, our circle will continue to change as well.
The friends worth keeping are the ones who:
*Tell you the truth no matter how bad it hurts.
*They are not offended by your lack of time for them.
*They understand we are all unique with our own thoughts, feelings and ideas. They respect yours and you respect theirs.
*They listen as much as they speak.
*No matter how much time lapses, you are a phone call away from feeling like there was no time lost at all.
*They make you laugh when you would rather cry.
*They want to see you happy and successful.
*They are with you at your worst and at your best.
If you have one good friend, that you can trust and share life with….. count your blessings. And keep a hold of him or her. A good friend who is both honest and true, is hard to find.