I wrote a piece a few years ago in regards to humility and wisdom going hand in hand. And boy do they ever if you think about it. I mean, they are in deed the best of friends. You can’t have a little bit or a lot of one….without having the other show up. They are just inseparable. (And the two of them together can cause quite a fuss!)
In life we will have experiences that humiliate us. Friends may humiliate us. Co-workers may humiliate us. Family may humiliate us. All in all…. people will humiliate us. ( And if they don’t we may just find some time to humiliate ourselves.😂)
We must remember however that it is only humiliation when there is truth to it. Otherwise it is just a rumor folks. And nobody gives a crap about rumors. Rumors are laughed at, blown off, and just flat out ignored. (By intelligent people they are anyway.)
When truth humiliates us we are given wisdom. After that it is up to us what we do with it. We can take that wisdom in and use it to benefit us and the situation, or we can reject it all together.
When we reject the wisdom we choose to continue on the same path and stay in the same place of ignorance. It is simply a preference to keep making the same mistakes.
What we should really do, is use the wisdom to change the situation. That in turn breaks the cycle, and that is the only way to truly move forward.
So many people waste time and energy loving people incapable of loving them back. The relationship is dead, yet they hang on until that frayed rope finally snaps. They make themselves sick with worry.
Instead of focusing on whats wrong with that part of our lives, we need to focus on what is right everywhere else. There are plenty of people who already love you. There are also plenty of people you have yet to meet, ready to to love you too.
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For centuries it has been said that freedom is never free. The same applies in our personal lives when it comes to self-discovery and personal growth. To be free from what binds us we must be willing to make sacrifices. We must be willing to surrender ourselves and be willing to let go & walk away.
In doing this, we find our own personal freedom. Because we no longer feel held down or held back- we can soar to new heights, and truly begin to live.
Running from our problems is like running on a treadmill. Instead of losing weight, we gain it. We stay in the same spot consistently and it makes it impossible for us to reach a new destination, or goal.
Whatever it is that we choose to run from; will always find us. Sure, we may be naive and think that there are certain things nobody could know or find out. We may also believe that there is no need to tell because it will only do more damage. However, if we think either of those things then we are only fooling ourselves.
If we do not claim these things in life or these experiences that we have encountered, how could we possibly fix them? Better yet, how can we claim to have learned a lesson from something we refuse to acknowledge or even discuss? We can’t fix something if we do not admit where it is broken. Right?
Wallowing in our secrets only brings more shame in the end. And shame, only adds more weight. Isnt it time for a change of scenery? Why not have a productive work out? The treadmill isn’t working out to well. It is time to unplug the machine. It is time to switch the work out plan, and use one that actually works.
By stepping off of the treadmill and facing the problems, weight loss begins instantly. We feel light, free, and most importantly…happy.
For today: Face those problems and decisions that have plagued your life, and reclaim what is yours. By facing the problems at hand, you will be closer to your desired outcome.
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Happiness is preferred by many, the state of which can be hard to maintain at times. What is it that makes you happy?
For some people money makes them happy, while another person’s experience of happiness may be something as simple as being home from work to enjoy the things they’ve work so hard for. For some it is a nice home, while others are happy to just have a roof over their head. For some it is a nice car, while others are happy to have any car that will run. And for some it is designer clothes, while others would just be happy with any clothes that are comfortable and fit well. It varies so much from one person to the next.
I have found that people are the happiest when they stay busy and set goals. When we set goals and focus our attention on those things we love, we have less time to find negativity within our life. We become so focused on what we are doing, that we worry less about what other people are doing or thinking. We have less time to let our emotions betray us or consume us. We also worry less about keeping up with our neighbors. When we stay busy and find exciting things to be a part of we simply find ourselves content, and happy.
If you are finding yourself discontent with life and unhappy, find something to look forward to. Get excited about something. When we are doing things that are exciting to us, we enter a state of happiness. To maintain it, we must keep doing things that are productive, and exciting. When excitement fades, happiness soon follows.
Happiness is in our mind! It is all about perception.