People

The Right Path

When we separate ourselves from others and begin to travel the road we feel is best suited for us  is not always accepted by our peers. However, more often than not  it  is accepted by our conscience. These cleaner roads we must travel in life will allow us to encounter criticism and judgment,  however,  we must keep traveling and not give up.

For today:  Disregard the criticism of others and keep trucking along. Before you know it you will look back; and be thankful you took not only the high road, but the right road.

Dead ends are dead ends, and when we are on the right road there are none. Instead, doors continue to open leading us down roads with an infinite amount of street lights. One blown street light doesn’t mean the path no longer exists. Keep going.

The right path isn’t always that easiest, the shortest, or the most lit; but it is by far the best way to maintain happiness.

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Day 3: Removing The Anchor

When restoring happiness and peace it is important to untie those anchors that keep us in treacherous waters.  After all, how can we get to a new destination if this anchor keeps holding in the same location? If we remain anchored we take the risk of being shipwrecked with one storm, or even one wave.

By removing the anchor and entering the captain’s seat we take control. We can then head into the open waters and travel around future storms  vs. sitting through every storm anchored and praying for survival. By steering ourselves, we are then given the option to plow through the waves and storms with determination. It also allows us to  keep a better eye on the forecast.

Our survival rate will increase significantly by simply taking control of the boat.

For day 3:

It is time to untie the rope, leave the anchor behind and set sail.

Once you start steering, you find that you are closer to Paradise Island than you had originally thought. However,  in order to get there we must first let go.

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God Given Mirror




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Maintaining A State Of Happiness

Happiness is preferred by many, the state of which can be hard to maintain at times. What is it that makes you happy?

For some people money makes them happy, while another person’s experience of happiness may be something as simple as being home from work to enjoy the things they’ve work so hard for. For some it is a nice home, while others are happy to just have a roof over their head. For some it is a nice car, while others are happy to have any car that will run. And for some it is designer clothes, while others would just be happy with any clothes that are comfortable and fit well. It varies so much from one person to the next.

I have found that people are the happiest when they stay busy and set goals. When we set goals and focus our attention on those things we love, we have less time to find negativity within our life. We become so focused on what we are doing, that we worry less about what other people are doing or thinking. We have less time to let our emotions betray us or consume us. We also worry less about keeping up with our neighbors. When we stay busy and find exciting things to be a part of we simply find ourselves content, and happy.

If you are finding yourself discontent with life and unhappy, find something to look forward to. Get excited about something. When we are doing things that are exciting to us, we enter a state of happiness. To maintain it, we must keep doing things that are productive, and exciting. When excitement fades, happiness soon follows.

Happiness is in our mind! It is all about perception.

Some Love

Some love comes for a season,

Some love lasts forever.

Some love is forfeited,

Some love is mistaken all together.

Some love brings inspiration,

Some love brings shame.

Some love is never-ending,

No love is the same.


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The Beauty In Pain


~ We will often learn more in ten days of agony than in ten years of contentment ~

Pain is a wonderful motivator that breaks down the walls that keep old behaviors intact. It guides us towards thoughts and ideas we may otherwise suppress, and forces us to seek answers from places we have never looked before. It opens our minds to ideas that hold the key to new insight, understanding, and freedom.

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When Was Your Last Piece Of Humble Pie?

Humble pie is the hardest piece of pie to eat. No sooner than we think we are: above something or someone, better than something or someone, don’t need something or someone …. we are given our first slice.

Humble pie must be chewed slowly, and is often washed down with  grateful juice.

(Grateful juice is also known as an attitude of gratitude energy drink.)  

The grateful juice tracer is crucial to prevent future pieces of humble pie from being served. Grateful juice can be found anywhere. To find it we must look around and see what we have to be thankful for.

WARNING: Humble pie can be crippling, and must be taken seriously!

As that piece of humble pie enters the body it begins to expose one’s insides. It rotates around the heart and soul for quite some time before entering the digestive tract. Humble pie can take weeks, months, and possibly years to digest. It varies from person to person and bite by bite.

For some lucky ones who indulge in a piece of humble pie, it will digest instantly. Some will only need a bite while others will need to eat the entire pie.

Of course there will always be some people who will eat all of the pies in the bakery and soon-after head to the next bakery. The engorge themselves because they just can’t taste the lessons. 

Beware of humble pie! It is often served following statements such as:

I would never _____

I could never ______

I have never ______

You could never _________

You will never ________

You can’t _________

You won’t ________

They always _________

They never _________

I wish I _________

Beware filling in the blanks above and when forming any sentences that begin with such words.

Humble pie is frightening  and is typically not the most appetizing dessert. It can be bitter and sour. When digested it can leave some feeling weak, vulnerable, and helpless.

At times humble pie can take lives but in time it will restore many lives. It takes hearts  and it gives hearts. It simply depends on how we digest  it. 

If digested properly humble pie can and will improve eyesight. Humble pie has been known to cure blindness in most cases.

Always keep your grateful juice handy to prevent future occurrences with humble pie. To date, the grateful juice is the only preventative measure that can be taken.

Just as humble pie has no expiration date, neither does the grateful juice. So drink it often!

Have you eaten a piece of humble pie lately?

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The Divorce Is Final, Now The Emotional Divorce

Often people file for divorce or initiate a break-up thinking that they are done with the relationship. They think the issues will be gone and that they can begin their new journey. Although publicly filing for divorce is the first major step, the emotional divorce is much harder to deal with, and it takes time.

Studies indicate that it takes approximately 3-6 months for every year in a committed relationship to heal. Although there is no such timer for healing due to the fact that each person handles it differently, this time period proves to be true in the dissolution of almost every relationship I have witnessed.

How To File For An Emotional Divorce

1. Begin to live separate lives! This is crucial! You are two separate people, heading two separate directions. You are on a journey to find yourselves again, and you will hit many road blocks while still acting as though you are a married or committed couple. Give him/her space, and begin to live separate.

2. Do Not Answer To One Another! This one is probably one of the hardest to do. After being in a committed relationship we naturally answer to the “How, Why, Where, When” questions. We do it naturally, and it times we feel it is just showing respect. Reality is, it is keeping us attached.

3. Reinvent Yourself! Find something you have always caught yourself daydreaming about, and do it. Take that trip, join that society, fight for that cause, run that marathon, publish that book, or whatever the case may be. When we begin doing something that empowers us on a daily basis we begin to feel we live a life of purpose. Reinventing ourselves is our way of keeping our past from dictating who we are or become. This is your chance to shine!

4. Pray! This is by far the fastest road to recovery. Pray for guidance, wisdom, and discernment. Pray for a life of peace. Pray to know yourself, and pray for God to allow others to be receptive to your wants, needs, and desires. It may be instantly that He answers, and it may be months. But nonetheless, He will answer. Just be ready when He does!

5. Let Go! There is nothing worse than holding on to something that is dead. Once you let go completely you can begin to embrace the new journey, and move forward. You then begin to experience an inner peace like no other just by letting go. Fear keeps us holding on, fear misleads us, and fear blinds us. When we let go of fear, we can let go of almost anything.

6. Find A Positive Outlet! Wether it be crafts, arts, music, writing, playing sports, coaching a team etc., it is important to find a positive outlet. This emotional roller-coaster ride may not end for weeks, months, or even years. Find something or some way to release that anger, frustration, and sadness in a positive way. By projecting positive, more positive will come.

7. Believe! The sooner you believe you can do it alone, the sooner you will. The sooner you believe, the sooner you will succeed. After every loss, there is a gain. When God takes one away, He often sends something or someone even better to bless our socks off.

8. Don’t Rush It! There is no need to rush into the arms of someone else. If we did that we would end up right back where we are now, eventually. Take time to learn the lessons. Dig deep and do a self-check. Break-ups are never due to one person alone. Both parties bring issues to the relationship, and it is important to take responsibility for your part in that. By accepting responsibility for where you went wrong in the relationship, you begin to take preventative measures for all future relationships.

As I stated earlier in this article, the emotional divorce is far different from the typical divorce. It is an entirely different process. Couples divorce every day in this country through our court systems. However, more often than not they remain emotionally married for years to come. Take control of your life, and get out completely. Only then will you experience the true beauty in this world. Only then will the chains that bind you, be broken.

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Tides

We will make mistakes

we will fall on our face

But what really matters

is that we fall with grace

When tragedy dies

and lessons are learned

happiness is found

the tides have turned.

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The Only Way To Truly Be Happy

I noticed this year when preparing for my daughter’s birthday party that I was not stressed at all. Everything was done way ahead of time. It was perfect!

When I reflected over the last few years of throwing social gatherings as a single mom, I realized they were all enjoyable. Stress free. No bickering. Just enjoying the day, living in the moment, and embracing life.

When I was married, parties were quite different. I would be mad that I didn’t have anyone to help me set up, or that he forgot the ice cream at the store. I would be mad if the grill wasn’t fired on time, or if he wasn’t there to watch the kids opening presents. By counting on someone other than myself, I was only setting myself up for disappointment. Which then led to a series of other emotions.

We all wander around aimlessly in hopes to obtain that ultimate happiness. When in reality, happiness is quite simple. The trick is to never count on anyone! Although this may harsh, shallow, or cruel, it is the absolute truth. When we rely on others, we become disappointed. When we become disappointed next comes hurt, anger, frustration, among many other things.

When I began to compare this scenario to other times in life where disappointment has been a factor, along with anger, frustration etc., the answer was still the same. “Don’t count on anybody but yourself, and you will have nothing to complain about.”